Relections and Life Lessons. Again.

So, no cutesy pictures or family trips to talk about today. We're going straight to the nitty-gritty.

For quite a while now, I have let people with negative 'oras' -or negative lifestyles- bring me down. I have felt crappy about the way friendships were going, the way 'friends' constantly try to 'one-up' you, and just want to use you to get ahead. This is not friendship to me! What happened to being friends with someone because you want to hang out with them and tell them all your secrets and gossip about what happened on soaps and Oprah that day? Friends like that are very hard to come by now...which saddens me. I could count on one hand the span of people I have trusted in my entire life....

So, with that said, I made it my mission to let them know how wrong they are...without being as blunt as I wanted (although I could have just blamed it on pregnancy)....but they didn't seem to get the hint. I tried to be nice about it and let it go for a while, then 'hinted' at mistakes or wrong doings, and was at the point of literal break....and then it hit me....well, Matt helped it 'hit' me. :)

IT'S NOT MY PROBLEM! :D

Isn't that great? I have ALWAYS wanted to fix everyone's problems, make people better people, help them push themselves to strive for more...but I have realized that some people don't want help; so who am I to push greatness upon them? Who am I to say, "You could do better and you're making a huge mistake." "I think you are a crappy friend" "Please, SHUT YOUR MOUTH, you're embarrassing yourself".....I am not the person to 'fix' everyone, unfortunately, because I would LOVE to. My job is to raise my children to NOT be like that....and that, I can control!

I have also come to realize that 'friends', unlike family, can be replaced or just shut out! You do NOT HAVE to be someone's 'friend' that treats you like poo....which is a great feeling.

So, in conclusion, although I just ranted about how it's not my place to push anyone to be a better person, I hope that someone out there reading this needs to hear these words,

You cannot help someone who doesn't want help. Do NOT stress over someone else's mistakes they're making...it will only make you look like the 'bad guy' due to their lack of multi-track thinking. If they ask your opinion, go ahead...let them down easy....but DON'T make yourself miserable over it! Love yourself and YOUR life and set good examples....maybe when their head pops out of you know where, they will want to follow your examples and understand that there is a life beyond betrayal and no will power. LOVE YOUR LIFE FIRST!!!

And finally, .....

Just ONE cute picture :)

Happy Friday-EVE!

We will be hitting up the Kountze Trade Days and an awesome butterfly release this weekend, enjoying our time together, and then EASTER this Sunday with some family! This Mama is ready for some hard boiled eggs! :)

Have a great weekend!